You are like a magnet - you are responsible for what you attract

You are like a magnet. Your core unconscious beliefs attract your reality. Scientists have proved that humans really do have a sixth sense - that lets them detect magnetic fields. Tests have shown that mankind may have the same innate sense of Earth’s magnetic field that has long been proved to exist in animals.

This means that we can sense a vibe coming from another human being. If what is at your core is fundamentally unhappy, unhealthy and miserable despite best efforts to disguise this, on another level what you’re radiating is putting a certain vibe out. This can be effectively covered up if you’ve had years of practice, but if you’re putting a disguise out to the world this will have an effect on your happiness and well-being, or could cause disease in you which later manifests as an illness.

How to change what you magnetise

Most people look outside of themselves to make changes to their life, and then wonder why the same scenario keeps playing out. The place to change is within you. After all, what shows up outside in your life is the result of something, an action or a conversation which comes from within you.

Occasionally miracles occur but these normally come to you if you’re open to them. People resign themselves to a certain life and think it’s not possible to change, so they start to get comfortable and settle in around who they know themselves to be. They create an identity which is normally based on their surroundings, friends, family, job etc.

A great deal of human behaviour is unconscious. By bringing this behaviour to conscious awareness and becoming the observer of your life and your patterns you are able to make choices and change your behaviour to yield different results. The first step is to recognise and catch yourself when you are being a certain way that isn’t what you are committed to, or is going to give you the future you want.

You may want to start to look at the results in your life that aren’t aligned with what you want, and start to catch yourself when you respond a certain way.

The context of the relationship and what we believe will determine the outcome.

Be aware of what you radiate out to the world

It is likely that at some point you have met or seen a radiant woman. Without even speaking she exudes an energy that almost looks like its glowing. Her eyes sparkle and she looks very alive. How you feel within determines how you physically look.

A while back I was having dinner and drinks with a girlfriend and we were having a great night. I said to her, you look so happy and sparkling right now I’m going to grab my camera and take a picture. In the time it took me to get my camera I could see her face changing in front of my eyes. In her mind she believed she wasn’t photogenic so she actually unconsciously told herself she wasn’t photogenic and her face literally transformed. All of the sparkling energy left her face and she looked flat and like the soul in her eyes had disappeared.

This is an example of how your inner beliefs effect what you radiate out and what other people pick up on. If you have negative thoughts and sabotage yourself in your mind no matter what front you’re putting across, many people will be able to sense it. It’s like in nature. Animals can sense fear. 


Despite what it is you think you want, if you are coming from a place of fear and lack within you, and are looking for somebody to fill that, the opposite sex will sense it. This need is based on past experience and fear. When we are born we are pure, and over the years many experiences happen to us, we make decisions and then we govern our lives based on those decisions, thinking such things as ‘I’ll never go there again’, or ‘I’m never going to expose myself again’.

It is likely, unless you have cleared and transformed them that you will take all of those decisions and experiences with you into future relationships, and regardless of the new person you meet, you view them through the eyes of your past experiences, which in many circumstances, regardless of the other person means the relationship doesn’t stand a chance.

Observing your life and relationships

As human beings we are like machines. We are programmed over the years and make decisions which shape our lives and relationships. We create an identity that we decided is who are and how we want to be based on our beliefs, experiences and values.

Many of the programmes you give to your machine are decided in moments of powerlessness and fear, when you felt out of our depth or something had gone wrong that had deeply upset you. It could be that you’d witnessed somebody else’s behaviour and decided you were never going to be like that. You may have even become the complete opposite.

When you were young and didn’t have the life experience or maturity to deal with some of the challenging things you found yourself faced with, you created fixed beliefs and patterns as a way to survive in the world and protect yourself. It could be that you wanted to tell one of your parents something that was really important to you, and in a moment of busyness they snapped at you and told you to get out from under their feet. You could have decided that they’re not interested in you, they don’t have time for you and they don’t care. Unless this belief is recognised and understood through the eyes of an adult this decision may shape your behaviour into adulthood.

You could be someone who keeps things that are important to you to yourself through a fear of feeling hurt if someone’s not interested. This is not necessarily the truth, but because you have an unconscious belief from childhood that people don’t care this is how life occurs to you and it shapes your reality. You go around only showing part of yourself to people, never really opening up and sharing what matters to you, and experiencing the amazing feeling that being loved and cared about really brings. It may sound petty but many of the roots of your discomfort around your relationships today are either based in the past or projected in the future.